I wasted a whole evening watching Wife Swap last night. I don’t know why or how I got sucked in, but I looked up and it was almost 9:00 p.m. and I had nothing to show for my night.
To be fair, I was recovering from a pretty bad bout of vertigo and hadn’t been able to lift my bowling ball of a head up to do much of anything for the past several days, but still, I could have at least watched a documentary or the news.
Who am I kidding though? I actually like completely zoning out every so often with a good Netflix binge or, as of late, mindless reality T.V. And I don’t feel bad about it. Well, most of the time.
Until I see another Facebook post from one of my friends who seems to do it all. I call her my Rockstar because that’s really what she is. Amazing in every way, she manages to make her busy life look fun and easy. She works full time as an attorney, raises two great boys, spends time with her husband, her family, her Sikh community, and her friends, travels, speaks at community events, appears on TV, radio and podcasts, lobbies civil rights issues to state and federal governments, volunteers with about a dozen worthwhile nonprofits and charities, and campaigns for political candidates in her community.
I bet she doesn’t watch a lot of Wife Swap.
Seriously though, I asked her how she does it all, and she said she just doesn’t think about it. She said if she did, she might get overwhelmed by it all, but she follows her calendar religiously, and she goes where she’s needed.
I questioned whether she gives up sleep, and she confirmed that no, she actually gets at least 8 hours a night.
Much like Nike’s iconic slogan, Just Do It, she doesn’t think about whether she has time or energy. She just does it.
And that got me thinking about all of the things I don’t “just do” and wondering how different my life would be if I “just did.”
Honestly, I don’t think I’d Life Swap, if given the chance. Aside from working, I’m raising a wonderful daughter, and we have a pretty great life. And I only have one more year until she leaves me for college, so I am glad to be in the slow lane, for now at least.
But I’m glad people like my Rockstar friend do what they do. I am amazed by her, and I try to tell her that often, but that’s not why she does what she does. She isn’t one of those annoying Facebook braggy types who just wants people to think she lives an amazing life. She is driven to help as many people as she can. She doesn’t think about how hard it might be, how long it might take. She just does it. And we’re all so lucky she does. The world is better because of people like her.
And my world, small as it may be, is better because of me. I know I’m exactly where I’m supposed to be right now. Next year, I might be fighting the good fight right along side my Rockstar friend. Or I might be on my own crusade. Whatever I’m doing, it’ll be the right choice for me.
Unless I’m still watching reruns of Wife Swap.
If I am, it’s time for an intervention.